Do you think experiencing pain and suffering growing up would help build one’s character and make him/ her a better person?

Introduction

                Success in many individuals in the society is determined by the character that one builds and whether one can be termed as a better person especially later in life. This means that success is mostly associated with grown up persons because the society can be able to gauge on what a person have managed to achieve in life mostly when one can be considered to be a grown-up. In most cases, what determines whether an individual can be successful is self-willingness (Brown, 75). This basically means that there is no naturally selected individuals in the society that are said they are the only one who can be successful.

It takes a lot of self-determination and many hours of hard work in order for one to get the desired achievement and later succeed in his/her ambitions. However, having said, it is important to note that there are certain factors that plays a big role in determining the success or well-being of individuals. This factors include health, faily set-up, family financial muscles and childhood experiences among others (Freado, 23). This paper argues that positive childhood experiences contribute to a higher extent in factoring whether an individual will build a character that can be considered to be good or not of which helps in determining if one is good or bad. This means that pain and suffering of which can be termed as negative experience rarely helps in building a strong character later in future but only in selected few cases (Gary & David, 36). One of the positive childhood experiences that help individuals build a strong character include the socialization that they experience and their role model perspective. According to Havemen and Barbara (1831), children who socialize with peers who are good morals end-up choosing the positive pat in life. For example, children who socialize with peers with strong religious background have the tendency of emulating positive behaviors that are taught within religious circles. This means that this type is children tend to run away from social vices that may lead them in to suffering. Examples of these social vices include engaging in crime and drug abuse. When children manage to run away from such kind of vices, they are able to use most of their time in doing constructive things such as engaging in their studies or even various different artistic disciplines (Brown, 77). Engaging in such positive doings are the ones that plays a crucial role in building and shaping ones positive character. However, those children who engage with the wrong peers end-up in finding themselves in a life of suffering and pain of which does not build their character but only ruin it.

When it comes to role models, it is important to note that children tend to copy much from parents and those that are near them on day to day basis. This means that most of the parents who provide support to their children whether emotional to financial ten to play a big role in helping them build a positive character compared to those that do not offer such kind of support. Painter and David (525) notes that family structure is vital of children achievement. This means that children who grow-up with both parents have a high probability of achieving good grades in schools having successful family set-up of their own compared to those who live with single-parents. Therefore, it is evident that a person’s character is shaped by who they socialize with during their childhood and the role models they always have (Freado, 24). Those who have positive socialization end-up having a less painful and suffering children and this contributes to their building of good character and better life in their adulthood.

            Having a caring caregiver consequently impacts the life of a person positively, because the person gets to understand the right moral values to live under. Moreover, having both parents is very significant for a child because he or she can be taught by the both parents on how to be able to conduct himself or herself. On the other hand, it is more significant to have a father figure as a parent rather than having a father who does not participate in undertaking his family duties. This basically affects the behavior of a person, simply because the person tends to lack the knowledge of how to be able to deal with certain issues, particularly if the person is a man. This is therefore likely to hinder one from being successful in life, and this is usually attributed to emulating the type of life that one’s father may have led in the past. On the other hand, children who have grown up in families which have consequently experienced a lot of challenges, tend to be disciplined (Brown, 79). They tend to be disciplined in many ways, such as morally, financially and socially. This is mainly because they understand where they are from a thing which makes them to have discipline wherever they go (Robert & Barbara, 45). When a child who is born out of poverty, is likely to work very hard in school, as compared to a child who is from a rich family. A poor child therefore takes whatever he or she does seriously, knowing that if he or she does not make it either in education or whatever he or she might be doing, then there will be no other chance. However, this may not be the case, since most children who have grown with a lot of hardships may tend to indulge in the abuse of substance and drugs. This consequently makes it hard for them to be able to perform better, hence ending up either dropping out of schools or even indulging in criminal activities, hence being arrested. Moreover, the feeling of wanting to be rich within the shortest time possible, often leads such people to a lot of problems. This problems may include vulnerability to theft and having a lottery mentality. A lottery mentality is the mentality which makes one to think that he or she can be able to make it in life playing the lottery and winning huge sums of money. This blinds them, making it hard for them to be able to work hard, hence becoming poor in future.

Conclusion

Experiencing pain and suffering may really help in making a person to be able to understand what life is really about. This consequently means that, through passing through a lot of pain, one can become discipline, thus handling his or her life with a lot of care. On the other hand, this might not be the case, this is because, some of the people who have passed through a lot of hardships while young, may indulge in the abuse of substance and drugs in order to forget about their past problems. The abuse of drugs often makes them vulnerable to committing crime, something may lead them to be arrested.

 

 

               

 

 

Works Cited

Waln K. Brown. Resiliency and the Mentoring Factor: Reclaiming Children and Youth. 2004.

Megan. Freado. Resilience: One Family’s Story: Voice of Youth. 2011.

Havemen, Robert and Barbara Wolfe. "The Determinants of Children's Attainments: A Review of Methods and Findings." Journal of Economic Literature, vol. 33, no. 4, Dec. 1995, pp. 1829-1878. EBSCOhost, 

Painter, Gary and David I. Levine. "Family Structure and Youths' Outcomes." Journal of Human Resources, vol. 35, no. 3, Summer2000, pp. 524-549. E